“Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.” –Stephen R. Covey.


What does it feel to be single, depressed, and alone on your 40th birthday? Ask me, I am she!

In 2017 I had been through a painful divorce. My children were away at college so at least they were spared the pain and chaos. I moved to a different town, had a makeover but something inside me was broken. I needed to fix something inside out, to mend.


In desperation, I scanned the self-help section of a local bookstore.

I came home with an armload of books-

On healing, meditation, nutrition, exercise, dating and yes, socializing. I also got self-help tapes by Dr. Wayne Dwyer, Louise Hay, Deepak Chopra, and even the Dalai Lama.

I needed help, which I sought from a mental health professional and a counselor.


I incorporated 10 habits in my daily schedule that have transformed my life and the way I look and feel. Yes, I look and feel 10 years younger.

I am upbeat, I enjoy work, I have a few friends, I lost 15lbs and I am no longer depressed. I am full of positivity about the present and the future!

Here are a few pages from my positivity journal. These are habits I gradually adopted over the past 2 years. Be kind to yourself. Initially, the going may be tough; but don’t give up. Keep at it girl!


“The early morning has gold in its mouth,” said Benjamin Franklin

Getting up early gives you a kick start for the day ahead. Besides allowing you more hours for your work, it also boosts your speed. 

Studies have suggested that when a person gets up early, she is more energetic and takes lesser time to do a task. She is also more adept at taking better decisions, planning and achieving goals.

Dopamine is a potent neurotransmitter secreted early morning in the brain.Don’t miss the Dopamine kick that fights depression, especially if like me you are prone to low mood.


A lot of people have this idea that meditation means sitting down and doing nothing. But that’s not true. Meditation is an active training of the mind to increase awareness.

 A study at Harvard found that mindfulness meditation can actually change the structure of the brain: Eight weeks of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) improves learning and memory.

Meditation stops mind-wandering which is typically associated with being less happy, ruminating, and worrying about the past and future-especially good for worry warts!


One of the simplest ways to ensure your body gets all of the nutrients it needs is to eat fruits and vegetables in the full spectrum of colors. Nature has its own “color-coding” system, with different compounds creating different hues in our foods. 

  • Beta carotene is responsible for the yellow-orange pigment in carrots, is converted by our bodies into Vitamin A, which supports eye health. 

  • Red – lycopene, anthocyanin, helps disease prevention, heart health, urinary health, eye health. Best sources: tomatoes, beets, watermelon, strawberries, raspberries. 

  • Green – lutein and indoles, helps lower the risk of some cancers, improves eye health.


As a general goal, aim for at least 30 minutes of physical activity a day. If you can't set aside that much time, try several short sessions of activity throughout the day. Any amount of activity is better than none at all. 

 Regular brisk walking can help you:

  • Maintain a healthy weight

  • Prevent or manage various conditions, including heart disease, high blood pressure, and type 2 diabetes

  • Strengthen your bones and muscles

  • Improve your mood

  • Improve your balance and coordination


10 health benefits of daily yoga practice

  • Improve flexibility, strength, and posture. Daily yoga practice will help stretch and tone your body muscles.

  • Better all-round fitness.

  • Weight loss. 

  • Increase your energy. 

  • Reduce stress. 

  • Breathe better. 

  • Be happier. 

  • Become more mindful.


What’s an activity that can help women stay strong, burn calories, and build healthy bones? Strength training. Before you say “no thanks” to weights, take some time to challenge your preconceptions.

  • A regular strength training program helps you increase lean body mass. 

  • It can burn calories more efficiently, which can result in healthy weight loss.

  • Weights slow bone deterioration and can help your bones grow stronger, help you maintain strength, and reduce your chance of developing — or slow the effects of — osteoporosis.

  • You can counteract muscle loss through strength training. 


Green tea is the healthiest beverage on the planet.

It is loaded with antioxidants and nutrients that have powerful effects on the body. These include improved brain function, fat loss, a lower risk of cancer and many other impressive benefits. 

Green tea has also been shown to boost the metabolic rate and increase fat burning in the short term.


Keeping a journal is one of the most beneficial habits I’ve implemented in my life. There are many reasons why, but this is the most important one–it forced me to be honest with myself and be conscious of my actions and habits.

Just like meditation, journaling got me to turn off my autopilot and become more present. It led me to actively inspect my life and identify blind spots I wanted to improve.

Here’s a list of things journaling helped me improve:

  • Remove huge time-wasters through being more conscious.

  • Improve human interaction skills. This resulted in better relationships.

  • Increase my focus 10-fold by reminding myself of what matters.

  • I found out what makes me feel fulfilled and happy at the end of the day. Now, I can engineer my days around those insights.

  • Eat better, more consistently. Read more.

  • Gratitude journaling is a great idea if you want to increase abundance in your life. The bottom line is, what you notice, grows!


While it’s important to develop a deep understanding of the things that matter most to us, it is just as important to develop a broad understanding of the world in general.

If that idealistic musing’s not enough, here’s some more down-to-earth benefits:

  • Learning across a wide range of subjects gives us a range of perspectives to call on in our own narrow day-to-day areas of specialization.

  • Learning helps us more easily and readily adapt to new situations.

  • Broad knowledge of unfamiliar situations feeds innovation by inspiring us to think creatively and providing examples to follow.

  • Learning deepens our character and makes us more inspiring to those around us.

  • Learning makes us more confident.

  • Learning instills an understanding of the historical, social, and natural processes that impact and limit our lives.

  • And, as I said, there’s the whole “making like worth living” thing.

There is, after all, a reason the term “well-read” is a compliment.


“A smile costs nothing, but it can mean the world to someone.”

I read somewhere that loving you and smiling are two things that can transform your life.

So before I begin brushing I smile at myself and look in the mirror and say,” Hi Gorgeous! I love you, I really really love you.”

From there I went one step further and began smiling at strangers.

I started with a simple smile, anywhere I went. 

Of course, some responded with the awkward "why-are-you-smiling-what-do-you-want-from-me" reaction. Then, there were the ones who looked on as if they never saw you. 

However, there was occasionally one person in a sea of unresponsive strangers that gave me a beautiful, genuine smile in return. And that made it all worth it.

As I went about my daily routine, I noticed that more people were smiling back at me. People, in general, seemed more friendly.

 I noticed more strangers would start conversations with me or ask for directions more often. I realized that I had built an unspoken rapport with strangers with my smile and energy alone!

So my dear girls. I hope this blog post seems useful to you.

My idea of posting this very personal story was to reach out to all us struggling women out there. It took me two years, a lot of reading and introspection, to come to the above conclusions. May it take you 2 weeks, 2 months and not 2 years to blossom.

Yes, these habits do work, I am living proof. I was able to move from a life where every moment was painful, to a harmonious existence. I was in harmony with myself and loved being alive.

As I sign off I leave you a blessing, “May you become all that you were truly meant to be. “Whoever you are, it’s your time. Step out of the shadows, into the light. And you are never alone. Put down all your questions in the comment section and we will get right back to you! Good luck!

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